在人的一生当中，我们会遇到很多人 ，也会结识很多人，有的人在经过接触之后成了朋友 。
在当前的这个生存环境中 ，办什么事都讲究个“人缘”，讲究个关系，单靠讲原则 ，讲大道理，那是很难成事的 。应酬，成了存活于这个空间不可或缺的重要手段。
应酬 ，是一门很深的学问，“笨 ”的人想学也学不会，我就是一个很“笨”的人。谁都知道 ，不会应酬的人大多没什么凝聚力，没有凝聚力，“人脉”就畅通不起来 ，人脉不畅通办事就很难。如今社会在朝着“看重现实 ”的方向发展，而我则在朝着这个方向后退 。为什么会出现这问题，我思量过后认为，首先 ，我从事着一门要办事就得处处求人的职业，没有凝聚“人缘”的优势可言。其次，我热爱我所从事的工作 ，尽管文化部门如一潭清水，但毕竟很单纯，这就养成了我“一就是一”的性格 ，说实话，这性格在社交场合中很容易被挤兑出局。再次，最要命的是我不会喝酒 。现在 ，交朋结友 、托人办事少不了推杯换盏，这是潮流，也是时尚 ，没有“两下子”不行，我是落伍者。综上几点足够说明像我这样的人没朋友或少朋友很正常。
每个人对朋友理解各有不用 。我所说的朋友，是除了我的父母、兄弟姐妹以及亲友之外的那些离我最近的人，这些人彼此间相互信任 ，并且能够为彼此生活所带来的平淡后的宁静与幸福。我的已故的朋友刘福金就是这样的一个人。尽管他离开我有三年了，至今我任然非常的怀念他，每到他的祭日 ，我都忘不了为他写篇祭文，以此表达我对他深深的怀念 。
1991年11月中旬，我们一起去青海省都兰县下拉木苏沟搞摄影创作。11月中旬的青海高原 ，气温已相当于我们江南的深冬，天寒地冻。17日早晨，我们乘坐的吉普车在窄窄的结冰的山路上行驶 ，在一拐弯处，由于路滑，我们的车不慎侧翻到路基下 ，好在路基不深，没造成恶果 。
其实，车在颠簸前行的时候，我一直处在高度紧张的状态之下 ，眼睛死死地盯着路的前方，担心会有个什么万一，真的是担心什么来什么。车失去控制慢慢滑向路基边缘的时候 ，我还没有反应过来，刘福金已经用一只手死死将我搂住，紧贴在他的胸前 ，另一只手牢牢地抓住前座靠背的把手。万幸，车没有翻滚，我们也没被甩出车外 ，除了刘福金的右臂有挤压伤之外，车上四人均躲过了一劫。在他保护我的那一瞬间，不知道他是否想到过自己的安危？不论怎么想 ，我以为他的这一举动是对“朋友 ”一词最好的诠释 。
他英年早逝，我深感痛惜。三年来，我一直非常的怀念他，深想的时候会情不自禁的流下泪来。为了摄影 ，二十余年我们南北东西走过很多地方，能同甘苦；在家的时候，没酒没肉 ，我们一杯清茶能到夜深 。有这样的朋友，哪怕只一个，我不嫌少。
两个灵魂不期而遇 ，淡淡的你来我往，并肩前行，共同见证潮起潮落 ，这样的你我才是灵魂和心灵之友。
In the people's life, we will encounter a lot of people, and you will have a lot of people, and some people have become friends after they have come.
I have a lot of friends before I have a family, and I haven't many friends now. The reduction in friends, there are many reasons, it is difficult to cover, but in general, this is a big relationship with my character and living conditions.
In the current living environment, do something "people", pay attention to the relationship, the principle of lending, and the truth, that is hard to get into things. Entertainment, which has become an indispensable means of living in this space.
Entertainment, a very deep learning, "stupid" people want to learn, I will learn, I am a very "stupid" person. Everyone knows that people who don't have to be willing, there is no cohesiveness, no cohesiveness, "people" can't afford it, and it is difficult to do things. Nowadays, society is developing in the direction of "valuable reality", and I will fall back in this direction. Why do I have this problem, I think later, first of all, I have to do everything in a matter of doing things, I don't condense the advantages of "human edge". Secondly, I love my work, although the cultural department is like a pool, but after all, it is very simple, this has developed my "one is a one" personality, telling the truth, this character is very easy to be squeezed in social situations. . Again, the most interesting thing is that I will not drink. Now, make friends, the trustee does not push the cup, this is the trend, it is also fashion, no "two kids" can't, I am a runner. Find a few more indication that people like me have no friends or a small friend.
Everyone understands the friends. What I said is, in addition to my parents, brothers and relatives, those who are nearest to my relatives, these people trust each other, and can be the stun tranquility and happiness of their lives. My late friend Liu Fujin is such a person. Although he left me for three years, I still miss him very much, I can't forget to write a sacrifice for him, and I will express my deep nostalgic to him.
In mid-November 1991, we went to Qinghai Tuli County, Tulu County, Qinghai Province, to engage in photography creation. Qinghai Plateau in mid-November, the temperature is equivalent to usThe deep winter in Jiangnan, the cold is frozen. On the morning of the 17th, we took the jeep driving on a narrow frozen mountain road, in a turning bend, due to the road slip, our car was not cautious to the roadbed, so on the roadbed is not deep, did not cause evil.
In fact, when the car is on the bump, I have been in a highly nervous state, my eyes are dead, and I am worried that there will be anything, really worrying what. When the car lost the control slow sliding to the edge of the roadbed, I haven't respond yet. Liu Fujin has already killed me with one hand, close to his chest, and the other hand firmly seized the front seat back Handle. Fortunately, the car did not roll, we have not been taken out of the car, in addition to Liu Fujin's right arm has squeezed injuries, four of the cars have hide. In the moment he protects me, don't you know if he thought of his safety? No matter what thought, I thought that his move was the best interpretation of "friend".
His heavenly died, I am deeply depressed. In the past three years, I have always miss him very much, and I will not be able to save tears when I think. For photography, more than 20 years we have passed a lot of places in the north and south, can be willing to be willing; at home, there is no wine without meat, we can get a cup of tea to night. Have such a friend, even if it is only one, I am not too small.
Two souls are in the face, faint, come to me, go to shoulder, witness the tide of the tide, this kind of you are the soul and soul.
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