依附那缕青烟,公公驾鹤西去

作者:长孙元真人气:2158更新:2021-07-14 06:01:15

公公驾鹤西去 ,享年八十二岁,走得有点匆忙,祸首是突如其来的心肌梗塞 ,据小姑子介绍 ,进手术室接受介入治疗时还记得把他藏匿私房钱的地点告诉她,以防不测 。手术时间很短,之后被推入ICU病房 ,几分钟后,病情加重,抢救无效 ,瞬间便无声无息离开这个世界,去往天国......

闻信,前去奔丧 ,一千多公里的历程并不短暂,好在有高铁可选,十九号晚上十点多钟达到目的地 ,再直奔殡仪馆(江南的殡仪馆非常人性化,专门设有灵堂套间供其家人祭奠休息)隔着灵堂十几米远,便听到婆婆声嘶力竭的哭喊 ,急促进入灵堂 ,首先看到的是公公黑色遗像,点上三支清香,跪拜 ,泪水随着一句:爸爸,我来迟了喷涌而出,尽管与公婆极少一起生活 ,也谈不上有太多的感情,但那时的我,眼泪却是真真切切 ,毫不吝啬倾泻而出,泪眼朦胧,入内室瞻仰仪容 ,感觉公公面部表情自然,安详,略感安慰。第二天是送公公上路的时间 ,我毅然决定为他烧纸点香守灵 ,灵堂,万籁俱静,死气沉沉 ,注目凝视棺中的公公,居然没有一丝恐惧,很是惊讶!之前我对此是万分恐惧 ,更别提是独立面对,也许,这是家人之故?那个夜晚 ,漆黑漫长,思绪凌乱,有点恍惚......凌晨五点 ,烧完五更香,便开始准备送行之事,平生没有亲身经历过这种事情 ,不懂章法 ,也不懂规矩,老老实实听婆婆指点,忙碌着 ,一会,婆婆递给一套白衣素衫,说让我穿上 ,这大概就是传说中的麻戴孝吧,反正和电视上看到的差不多。告别仪式定在上午八点半,提前半个多小时 ,先生哥两在亲戚朋友的帮助下,将遗体挪到推车上,用红色缎面盖身 ,再用红色丝绳绑定,时辰一到,灵车在前 ,哭声随后 ,告别仪式在哀乐声中开始,告别厅瞬时变成哭海,几分钟后 ,工作人员推起灵车走向焚尸房,随后便一抬手,仿佛一片火红......我再也不忍目睹 ,蹲在地上,撕心裂肺嚎啕大哭,那是一扇生死之门 ,门里门外,人各一方,天地两茫茫......半个小时后 ,好端端的一个人,只剩下几根脆骨及一片灰烬,骨灰盒便是人生最后的蜗居 。

按老家规矩 ,中午安排吃豆腐(其实 ,就是正常用餐,只是必须有一道菜是豆腐,老家习惯称为吃豆腐) ,为了答谢帮忙的亲戚朋友,滴酒不沾的我,还是挨个去敬酒 ,以示真诚谢意,空腹敬酒,胃异常难受 ,默默忍受着,继续尚未完成的事宜......

下午三点多钟,亲戚朋友依序离开 ,婆婆 、先生兄妹及我们三个外姓者,开始商议家庭内务,婆婆是地道家妇 ,没有文化 ,没有收入,日后的赡养问题需要解决,公公当天发生的医疗费用及之后三天发生的墓地等殡葬开销也需大致估算下 ,作为长嫂,我应诺无论已经发生的费用,还是婆婆日后的赡养 ,都由我们承担最多(尽管山路既非富婆,更非款姐),因为 ,我们是家中老大,没有理由推卸,也没有理由不做表率 ,家庭会议很祥和,也很顺利,没多久便达成共识 ,显然 ,婆婆对此也没有疑虑,皆大满意 。

因儿媳妇临产在即,昨天晚上七点 ,我踏上归程,匆忙返京,至那个时间 ,我已经整整三十六个小时没有合眼了,记忆中,似乎从未有过三十六小时不睡觉的记录 ,不知道三十六个小时,是否是我精力体力的极限?只是上车后才感觉神疲体乏,但好在已经有时间可以歇歇了。

公公走了 ,静悄悄,冷清清,亦如一片树叶 ,飘然远去 ,了无声息。他安详的面容,似乎在告诉我们,他走的并不痛苦 ,也许,从某种角度说,向死 ,是地狱走向天堂的金光大道,是魂魄的升华,是人生苦难的解脱 ,而真正痛苦的是那些活着的家人,配偶首当其冲!其实,生离死别 ,乃人生之必然,不知是否可以将人的一生,理解为人生两证之间的徒步、缓行、依序 ,即人生始于出生证 ,作别死亡证,并在交换过程中引发的种种努力 、勤勉 、博弈、拼搏、收获 、成功、喜悦、快乐 、幸福,以及纠结 ,郁结,磨难、艰辛、坎坷 、波折、痛苦、悲伤,也就应验了人生“哭着来 ,笑着走”这一并非名言却质朴无华的真言实话呢?

公公一贯简朴节约,可他无法知道临走那天一天花费五万元医疗巨款,我不是医生 ,但具有一定的医疗常识,从他的医疗小结及小姑子口中得到的信息,不难发现医院最后时刻的温柔一刀 ,非但没有救活公公,反而加速了他的死亡!(在此顺便通报下公公发病的简要情况,想以此帮助大家走出心梗误区 ,并不是所有病人都反应为胸闷 、心绞痛 ,而有三分之一的病反应在胃部的不适,公公便是典型的胃部不适病例 。发病前一周左右,他老说胃有点烧心 ,曾去医院看病,医生诊断是胃病,开的药让他回家服用 ,之后,胃还断断续续不适,直至临死前那天早上 ,感觉胃更加难受,便一早去往医院,这次 ,才被安排心电图,结果提示一支堵塞,建议转院治疗 ,但为时已晚)通常情况下 ,采用心脏支架介入治疗是有一些特殊规定的,如果用法不当,将加速死亡进程 ,而如今,这一严格的医疗规定,却被人为的肆意打擦边球 ,甚至滥用,几乎所有医生都会选择同一种告慰语言:用支架,也许有1%的希望 ,但不用支架,那就是100%没有希望,请试想:哪位病人家属会放弃这渺茫的1%希望呢?毕竟 ,那是一条活生生的生命,尽管人财两空,但至少可以让活着的人 ,没有遗憾。不知道有多少条生命在临终前遭遇过如此温柔的一刀?不知道那些医者父母是否心安理得?不知道有多少困难家庭还挣扎着为刀伤埋单?

愿公公一路走好 ,在那个没有欺诈,没有病痛,没有烦恼 ,没有伤害,没有残杀,没有黑暗的国度 ,安好并快乐着。

英译版本:

Gongfu drued to go to the Hexi, enjoy a bit of eighty-two years old, have a bit a hurry, the first is a sudden myocardial infarction, according to the little augscue, I still remember the place where he hides the private house, telling her. To prevent it. The operation time is very short, and then pushed into the ICU ward. After a few minutes, the condition is aggravated, the rescue is invalid, and the world is silent. I will go to the heavens ...

Going to the mourning, more than a thousand kilometers is not short, so there is high-speed rail option, Ten o'clock in the 19th, reach the destination, and then go straight to the Funeral Pavilion (the funeral homes in Jiangnan are very humanized, specializing in the hinge suite His family pays homage to the rest of the spiritual tang, he heard the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law, and urgent to enter the horman. First, see the father-in-law, click on the three fragrance, worship, tears with a sentence: Dad, I It's late to spray, although I live with my in-laws, I can't talk too much feelings, but I, my tears are really cut, don't pour, tear, tears, into the inner room Appreciate the toll, feel that the father-in-law is natural, serene, and more comfort. The next day, it was the time to send public public road. I decided to burn the incense, the spiritual hall, the spirit, the dead, and concentrated on the father-in-law, there is no fear, very surprised! Before I was very fear, I would like to be independent, maybe, this is the family? That night, the paint is long, the thoughts are messy, and it is a bit embarrassed ... at 5 o'clock in the morning, I burned five more fragrant, I started to prepare for the delivery, and I didn't experience this kind of thing. I don't understand the charm, I don't understand. The rule, the old man is realized, busy, busy, for a while, mother-in-law handed a set of white sals, saying that I put it on, this is probably the legendary Maidu, anyway, and TV. The farewell ceremony is set at 8:30 in the morning. After a few hours in advance, Mr. Brother two in the help of relatives and friends, put the body on the cart, covered with red satin, and then bind it with red silk rope, hour When the spirit car was in front, the crying ceremony started in the sorrow, and the bideline was instantaneous to cry. After a few minutes, the staff pushed the trainer to the burning room, and then raised his hand, as if a flaming. ..... I can't bear it anymore, squatting on the ground, taking the heart of the lung cry, it is a life and death door, the door outside the door, the people, the heavens and the earth ... half An hour later,A person in the best end, only a few crisps and a piece of ashes, the ashes of the bone is the last wormh.

According to the number of horses, arrange tofu (in fact, it is normal dining, just must have a piece of tofu, the hometown is called eating tofu), in order to thank the relatives and friends of the help, I don't touch me. It is still a toast, so I am very happy, my anklet is uncomfortable, the stomach is uncomfortable, silently enduring, continue to have not completed ...

Three minutes in the afternoon, relatives and friends , Mother-in-law, gentleman, three surnames, began to discuss family interior, mother-in-law is the authentic family, no culture, no income, future support problems need to be solved, the medical expenses occurred in the public day and the three days after the three days, etc. Funeral expenses need to be roughly estimated, as a long, I have no matter what the costs have occurred, or the mother-in-law is the most, and the mountain road is neither a rich woman, less than the sister), because we are the boss of the family There is no reason to shirk, and there is no reason not to do the pattern. The family meeting is very peaceful, and it is also very smooth. It is not long for reaching a consensus. Obviously, the mother-in-law does not have doubts, all are very satisfied.

Due to the daughter-in-law, it was 7 o'clock last night, I stepped on the return, hurried back to Beijing, until that time, I have not glared in 36 hours, memory, it seems never have never been there Thirty-six hours not sleeping, don't know 36 hours, is it the limit of my energy? Just getting the tiredness after getting on the bus, but it has time you have time.

The father is gone, quiet, cold and clear, as a piece of leaves, it is far away, there is no voice. His peaceful face seems to tell us that he is not painful, maybe, from a certain angle, death, is the Jinguang Avenue of hell to heaven, is the Soul of Soul, is the relief of life, and true pain The live family, the spouse is the first! In fact, it is inevitable from life, it is inevitable. I don't know if people can understand the life, slow, or sequential, that is, life begins with birth card, doing a doctor, and triggered during exchange Various efforts, diligence, game, hard work, harvest, success, joy, happiness, and tangling, stunning, hardship, hardship, rough, twists and turning, pain, sadness, and testing life "crying,Laughing, "This is not a famous true truth.

The father-in-law has always been simple, but he can't know that he spends 50,000 yuan medical huge sum of 50,000 yuan, I am not a doctor, but it has a certain Medical common sense, from his medical summary and information, it is not difficult to find the gentle knife in the last moment of the hospital, not to save his father, but accelerate his death! (In this way, the brief situation of public development I want to help everyone get out of my heart, not all patients react to chest tightness, angina, and one-third of the disease reaction in the stomach, male is a typical stomach discomfort case. One week before the disease Around, he always said that the stomach is a bit burning, he went to the hospital to see a doctor. The doctor diagnosed is a stomach disease. The drug opened the medicine made him go home. After that, the stomach is also intermittent, until it is dead, it feels more uncomfortable in the morning. To the hospital, this time, it was arranged in an electrocardiogram. The results prompt to block the clogging, it is recommended to treat the treatment, but it is too late) Under the circumstances, there is some special provisions of the heart bracket intervention treatment. If the usage is improper, it will accelerate death Process, and now, this strict medical regulations are artificially rubbed on the edge, and even abuse, almost all doctors will choose the same surprised language: use the bracket, may have a 1% hope, but do not use the bracket, that is 100 % Has no hope, please try: Which patient's family will give up this embarrassing 1% hope? After all, it is a living life, although people can wealth, but at least let people, there is no regret. I don't know How many lives have encountered such a gentle knife before going to the end? I don't know if the parents of the doctors are in peacefulness? I don't know how many difficult families are struggling for the knife injury.

May the father-in-law go all the way, in which there is no Fraud, there is no illness, no trouble, no damage, no killing, no dark country, well and happiness.

Copyright jmser.net 鸡毛书 Rights Reserved.