莉上线 ，一搭话，莉先感叹，“怪不怪 ，我考试不合格，心情还不错。 ”“哈哈，这是什么原因？”我想不明白，“不过倒可以自作多情地妄猜一下 。”我的意思是她没考过 ，我就要请她吃饭了，这个以前说好的，这样我们就能相聚。
“把钱看淡了！把时间也看淡了！ ”莉自我解释。“就是交钱 ，再迟考两天呗！今天我还吃大餐呢！”莉像是真的很高兴 。
“一听就是既有钱又有时间的人说的话。”我调侃，“反正不在乎，要是放在我可心疼呢。”说到此 ，突然心里又有了疑问，“今天吃大餐是不是有什么事庆祝？ ”
“哦，原来如此 ，有点破罐子破摔的味道。钱要交，还要额外浪费钱 。”
“其实攒钱也没钱，花钱还有钱，你说是不？ ”莉问我 ，“还记得不？我心情不好时就花钱。花了钱心情就好了！”
“花钱有钱是不会感觉穷，是心里富裕。这是我的看法 。这心态我体会不到。”我实话实说，并且怀疑 ，这和有些女人心情不好吃东西是不是一脉相承？反正是和钱和自己过不去，最后又过去了，心情便好了 ，自虐性，加放纵性，是不是还有点报复心态？
“我花钱还不是为吃的 ，看见啥就买，也不知道到底回家用不？ ”莉说自己。
“我认为只有身体和健康是自己的 ，其余都无所谓。”这是莉的生活感悟，转而却又像是自责，“我现在就是好像很堕落，好像什么都明白了 ，什么都无所谓。 ”
“这是好事，说明你更会经营自己的婚姻了，有句话不是说 ，没心没肺的人才更容易快乐，你进化晚了 。 ”
“哈哈，看你，想那去了 ，那只是种比喻说法，就像你刚才说的，什么都想开了 ，就少生气，也不会太俭省，不会亏待自己，容易快乐 ，婚姻呢，矛盾也像是少了，对方的缺点呢可以睁只眼闭只眼 ，生活吗，就这样，没有完美 ，便不再要求，我们常人所要的，还有什么更高的奢望呢。”
“现在爱人是次要的！孩子是主要的。”听到她这样说 ，又觉得其实她并没有真正放开，便提示她，“其实把孩子也要放淡些 ，你还只进化到第一层次 。再过些时日，你便知道，对孩子，也要像对老公对婚姻的态度。 ”
“如何教育孩子也是一门学问 ，令人苦思冥想百思不得其解。”莉感叹，像是真的想不明白要如何更好地教育孩子 。其实我们都还没有想明白，我也有疑难 ，有困惑。只是我要说，“孩子的存在更多的应该是为我们带来生活的快乐而不是负担与责任才对。教育孩子是学问，我们可以慢慢进修 ，人不可能不走弯路的，重要的是，别让他们成为我们的人生重负 。放宽心 ，向好处看。”
“我现在好像对孩子要求太高了。 ”莉自问，“细想想孩子刚出生，会笑笑一家人就高兴 ，再大些会帮人拿东西，我们还是见人就夸，现在孩子会做饭了学习也还好，就是贪玩了些我们就不乐观了 ，整天打骂，孩子也很苦恼 。”
“是呀，眼里看不到孩子的好了 。 ”
“你？”我有些惊讶 ，却并没有像以往那样表现得很激动，或是赶紧以玩乐地口吻说去陪她，而是很认真地问她 ，“不要老公？”
“奥 。 ”莉回得很淡定，“其实我很想一个人。”
“一个人去，他不去 ，如果你觉得这样好就行。”我说 。“一个人的旅行也不是不可以。”
“看你，连这一点都放不下，还怎么去？去了心里都牵肠挂肚 ，如何能开心？”我不由得要责怨她一句 。
“要去很远吗？非得一个人？孩子真的放不下吗？你应该把这些问题放在一起追问 。 ”
“他忙！我不想管盖房的事。 ”莉指的是老家最近在盖房子，她不想参与 ，老公自是抽不开身 。
“哦，那是你想一个人去，不要人陪 ，别人不再考虑，还是只能一个人去，又不想带孩子？”我又强调一下 ，“还是你希望有别人陪，却又担心对方也脱不开身？”
“呵呵，没人陪 ，也不敢让人陪，只能一个人。 ”
“想，才能向希望趋近 ，不需要，那就是别人敢也不顶用 。 ”我说，“看来人生总是很矛盾 ，总有太多牵绊与顾忌。”我不由得联想到自己，“还记得那些年，我总希望有个人陪我一起出游 ，却一等就是多年，始终没有人与我同行，而我也就很少出去 ，这样青春便走过了，后来在上海，我试着一个人出去 ，倒也能体味别一样的快乐，可我却无法否认，自己还是希望有个人能陪我，我是多么希望有这样的机会。”
“我们还能不能好好坐下来聊聊天 ，出去一块散散心，这样的机会不知道有没有 。”莉也动情地感慨一句，像是同样有期望。
“机会是自己创造的 ，于我是争取，不是别人私舍的。 ”我说 。
“我以为如此，可是很难。”我像是又在自我否定 ，“见一面都难 。 ”
“我只再说一句 ，你只要明白，我犹如随时处在待命的状态，只要你需要 ，我怎么都希望能陪你，一起出去。”我赶紧强调一句，生怕她走了。
“谢谢，我会记得。我很感动 。 ”
“我不是要你感动 ，这也是我想说的。我要的也许你没有，或是很浅，但是无所谓 ，人生不可能有完美，只要我因此幸福与快乐就好，如同我对你的期望与祝愿。”
“我明白的，人总是容易感动，为情所动 。 ”
“只要一点现实的欣慰足矣 ，那样奢望也无益。 ”我像是有点不识趣。
Lili on the line, a word, Li Xian sigh, "I can't blame, my exam is unqualified, my mood is not bad." "Haha, what is this?" I don't understand, "but you can do your own love. "I mean is that she has not been examined, I have to ask her to eat, this is good before, so we can get together.
"Look at the money! Time to look delicious!" Li Shuo explained. "It's just paying for two days! Today, I still eat a big meal!" Li is really happy.
"One listener is what is said that there is a person who has time and time." I am ridiculed, "I don't care, if I am in me, I have a distressed." When I said this, I suddenly had questions. " Is there anything? "
" No, I feel that I have to pay 340 yuan to the driving school, I don't like it, I don't like it, I don't want it? "
" Oh, the original, there is a bit breaking can Broken taste. Money is going to pay, but also to waste money. "
" In fact, if you have money, you have money, you said yes? "Li asked me," I still remember? I am mood. If you can't spend money, you will spend money! "
" Flower money is not feeling poor, is a rich heart. This is my opinion. I can't figure it. "I don't know." Really, and doubt, is this and some women feel that it is not good to eat? Anyway, I can't go with money and I have, I finally passed, my mood is good, my self-abuse, plus, is it a little revenue?
"I still don't have to eat, I will buy it, I don't know if I go back home." Li said himself.
"Women seem to be too complicated, this homework, I haven't learned it."
"I think there is only physical and health is my own, the rest doesn't matter." This is the life of Lili, but It's like a self-blame. "I am now very falling, it seems to understand, I don't care."
"Forty is not confused? What else is too open." I prompt.
"Live a day! I quarrel with my husband."
"This is a good thing, indicating that you will operate your own marriage, there is a saying that there is no heart, it is easier for people who have no lungs. Happiness, you evolved late. "
" People have to learn, but I can't do it, at least I have filializes the elderly. "
"Haha, look at you, think about it, it is just a metaphor, just like you just said, what you want to open, you will be so angry, you will not be too good, you will not treat yourself, easy happiness , Marriage, contradiction is like it is less, the other party's shortcomings can only be closed, life, this, this, no perfect, no longer request, what we often want, what is more expensive? "
" Now the lover is secondary! The child is the main thing. "Hearing her saying this, but felt that she did not really let go," actually put the child and put some, you I only evolved to the first level. After some time, you know that, for the child, it is also like the attitude towards the husband. "
" How to educate the child is also a question, it is hard to think about the thoughts It is said. "Lu is sigh, like it really wants to understand how to better educate children. In fact, we have never understood that I also have trouble and confused. Just I want to say, "There are more children's existence should be the happiness of life rather than the burden and responsibility. Education children are learning, we can slowly study, people can't take a detour, important Yes, don't let them become our life. Relax my heart, look at the benefits. "
" I now seem to be too high for the child. "Li Shen," Think about the child just born, will smile a family Just happy, then I will help people get things, we still see people to praise, now the child will have a meal, it is also good, it is greedy, we are not optimistic, all day, the child is also very distressed "
" This has a contradiction. "I said.
"Yes, I can't see the child in my eyes."
"I can't think of it, too much."
"So I said you should take out your attitude toward marriage and life. I only said to my son. "I said this, Li suddenly said," I want someone to go far away. "
" You? "I am a bit surprised, but I didn't make it very excited like I have ever, or hurry Playing with her tag and said with her, but asked her very seriously, "Don't you husband?"
"Oly." Li Hui is very calm, "In fact, I really want to be alone."
" He doesn't go, if you think this is good. "I said. "A person's travel is not."
"What should the child do?" Li is asking me, andLike sigh.
"Look at you, even if you can't put it, how do you go? Go to the heart, how can you be happy?" I can't help but blame her.
"This is confusing." Li Yu said.
"Is it far away? Do you have a person? Does the child can't let go? You should ask these questions together."
"Who can you?" Li is asking for you. Say me to listen.
"Husband is reluctant to go, or you don't want to go with him?"
"He is busy! I don't want to cover the house." Li referred to the old home recently, she didn't want to participate, her husband It's not to open.
"Oh, that is what you want to go, don't take it, others are no longer considered, or only one person can go, don't want to bring children?" I emphasized, "I hope that there is someone else, but And worried that the other party also did not open it? "
" Oh, no one is accompanying, and you can't let people accompany, can only be alone. "
" This is not dare, but I don't want to Question. "
" I don't dare. "
" I want to think about it, I don't need it, that is, others dare to use. "I said," It seems that life is always very contradictory, There is always too much to take much and scruple. "I can't help but think of myself," I still remember those years, I always hope that someone will travel with me, but I have been with me for many years, and I have never been with me, and I am very Less out, so youth has passed, and later in Shanghai, I tried someone to go out, but I can really feel the same happiness, but I can't deny it, I still hope that someone can accompany me, how much I hope. Such a chance. "
" We can still sit down and chat, go out, this opportunity doesn't know if there is any. "Li also emotively felt, like it is also expected.
"The opportunity is created by yourself, and I am fighting, not someone else's private house." I said.
"I think so, but it is very difficult." I am like self-denial, "I'm hard."
"The same feelings." Li suggestion, "Take a break!"
"Are you tired?" I am like it.
"Not tired, the child has to rest."
"I only say one, you just know, IIt's like it is in the state of standby, as long as you need, I hope to accompany you and go out. "I quickly emphasized a sentence, for fear that she left.
" Thank you, I will remember. " I am very touched. "
" I am not touched, this is what I want to say. I want, maybe you don't, or very shallow, but it doesn't matter, life can't be perfect, as long as I happiness and happiness, like my expectation and wishes to you. "
" I know, but this is my true psychology! "
" I understand, people are always easy to move, for love. " "
" I wish you a dream! Dream! "
" I hope there is a dream! "I said with her. In fact, I am not dreaming now.
" There is you in the dream! " "Li said.
" As long as a little delighted, it is no longer like it. "I don't know some interest.
" Take a break! " Meet later! "Eli is gave me a fixed pill.
I tried the expression of a kiss, and then add a hug and said, come to a kiss, dreaming may not have this reality. Lili came over to hug, this is the first She is so used to shoot ...
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