这次赶在五一前回了趟家 。凑巧的是 ，按着农历，父亲应该是在5月2日这天满52岁的。也即是说，我赶上了父亲的生日。只不过 ，对于已经过世2年多的父亲来说，我这次只能以鞭炮来为他庆生了 。
个中原由却也极为简单，他的生日与我外婆恰好同一天 。孝顺惯了的父亲每次都是把这一天的主流时间留给了外婆 ，自己则挂靠在一边，在家里小范围里庆祝尽管在这个方面外婆也极为开明，但是父亲却从不让步。为这事，父亲的朋友一直跟他吹胡子瞪眼睛。
在父亲去世后 ，我多少从母亲那里得到了一些细节，为外婆过生日再晚，母亲再不舍得离开娘家人 ，父亲也是坚持要在当晚回家，并一定要在路上捎带好菜回家的 。
在当天晚上，他会把在老家的两个堂兄弟叫过来 ，一同喝酒庆生。之前，当邻居家的吴四明叔叔与邻组的另一个老叔也在的时候，这个阵容还会更大一些。这顿饭 ，在我家住在老宅的时候，是必定要吃的，可以算做我们张家的传统。也许 ，我该以家宴来称之 。当天晚上出席在家宴上的亲友，必定是与父亲最为处得来的。但是，这样的庆祝一定是小范围的，不事声张的。好象相互之间有了默契似的 ，再有别的重大的事情，我两个堂叔与另外两个老叔这天晚上必定是要推掉，以赶我父亲的场的 。参加这次家宴自然也要依照父亲的规矩不准带礼品以及不准送礼金的。在这个问题上 ，素来不喜惊扰他人的父亲再次显出他的含蓄。也即是说，这个客他是不请的，恰巧这几位要请的人在 ，恰巧有了这么一顿饭，大家顺便聚在了一起热闹下 。
也因此，尽管亲戚间的走动在我家乡非常普遍 ，对好多人来说也许甚至就是一顿酒席的差事，但是，对于父亲来说却是一个浩大的工程 ，他甚至在2003年就开始与母亲商量到底该不该请客。这中间，从犹豫 、彷徨到最终的下决心，他用了整整4个多月。对于父亲，他其实是想将这一盛宴留给我结婚的那一天的 ，但是，我这边一直没进展也让他一直很伤神 。遗憾的是，他怎么也等不到了。只有日后的家祭他才能略晓一二。
岁月不等人 。我这边没有新故事讲 ，2004年，父亲却名正言顺地迎来了他50岁的寿辰，他终于大张旗鼓地过了一回生日。在我们老家的习惯 ，生日是过虚岁，不过正岁的。我记得，按照农历 ，他的生日应该是在那一年的5月4日刚好是在五一假期。
我记得，我们家上一次请客是我考大学以及妹妹升读中专 。这个间隔，差不多有7年了。但是 ，7年之后，连父亲自己都没想过的是，这是他在世之日亲自操办的最后一轮宴席了。
在生日来临的半个月，父亲的嘴就没合上过 ，身子也没停歇过 。那个时候，因工作原因，我家搬到了镇上 ，父亲的生日宴会也就挪到了附近学校的操场举行。这样的场地安排，自然是父亲早就与学校协商过的。菜也是早早备好，父亲早就拉着妈妈上街买过 ，在5月3日，父亲还把大妈妈邀来一同帮忙洗菜择菜，生日大厨的重任也落在了轻易不献艺的小姑父身上 。
天下的事情 ，很多时候真只能用命中注定来解释的。父亲36岁生日的时候，我还不晓世事，父亲是否办过宴席 ，我也无得而知（母亲应该是记得的，可我现在去贸然提起这一问题，多少对她有些惊扰的），而如果不曾操办的话 ，那这就是母亲出嫁张家20多年来，父亲正式为自己祝寿，而且 ，是把寿宴摆在了中午按我们老家的习俗，晚宴算不得正宴，午宴才是正餐的。相应的 ，外婆当年的生日宴会则顺延至了晚上，我的舅舅和姨妈们都是中午在我家吃饭，下午就开拨到我大舅家去了 。因为家里有客人 ，父亲也就没能去外婆家给老人家请安，却也终于把自己留在了家里，过了一个完整的生日。
那顿饭 ，大家应该是还了个心愿的。那一次，应该是有十多桌客人的，场面之恢弘，让父亲感到体面的同时 ，却也为这些客人的破费而多少感到内疚，嘴上不停地说不该来，却实在是笑在眼里乐在心里的 。
This time I went home before May 1. It is a hacker, and the father should be 52 years old during May 2. That is to say, I caught up with my father's birthday. Just, for my father who has passed the world, I can only celebrate him with firecrackers this time.
In fact, even if the father is in the world, his father has not been celebrating for his birthday. More time, it is in the form of a family feast.
The Central Plains is also extremely simple, and his birthday is just the same day with my grandmother. Every time, the father of filial piety is left to the grandmother. They will be on the side. Celebrate at home, although the grandmother in this area is also extremely open, but the father is never concession. For this, the father's friend has been blowing him with him.
After the father passed away, I got some details from my mother. I was late for my grandmother. The mother was not willing to leave the mother. My father also insisted on going home that night, and be sure to bring a good dish on the road. home's.
At the evening, he will call the two brothers in the hometown, drink alcohol. Before, when the neighbor's Wu Suming uncle and the other uncle of the neighbors, this lineup would be more bigger. This meal, when I live in the old house at my house, I must eat it, I can count the tradition of our Zhangjia. Perhaps, I should have a family feast. The relatives and friends attending the family feast will be, it must be the most important thing to my father. However, such a celebration must be small, nothing. It seems that there is a tacit understanding, there is another major thing, I have two uncle and the other two unconsses this night. It must be pushed away, so that I will catch my father's field. Participating this family feast naturally, according to the father's rules, no gifts and no gifts. On this issue, the father who didn't teach the disturbance of others showed his implicit. That is to say, this guest is not yet, it happens to be invited, it is like this, and everyone will gather together.
Also, although the movement between relatives is very common in my hometown, it is even a bit of a gain, but it is a vast project for my father. He even in 2003. Start with your mother to discuss it. In this middle, from hesitation, he used to decide, he used it for more than 4 months. For your father, he is actually thinking about this.On the day of giving me married, I have never progressed here, and he has always been very hurt. Unfortunately, he can't wait. Only after the future home will be able to ignore one or two.
Years did not others. I have no new stories here. In 2004, my father was honored to celebrate his 50-year-old birthday. He finally passed a birthday. The habit of our hometown, birthday is the age, but it is just old. I remember, according to the lunar calendar, his birthday should be on May 4, it is just five holidays.
I remember that our home for a request is a university and a sister. This interval is almost 7 years. However, after 7 years, even the father didn't think about it, this is his last round of feast in person in the world.
Half a month after birthday, his father's mouth did not contact, and his body did not stop. At that time, because of the reasons, my family moved to the town, and my father's birthday party was moved to the playground nearby schools. Such a site arrangement, naturally, the father has long negotiated with the school. The dishes were also ready early. Father took the mother on the street. On May 3, the father also invited the mother to help to wash the vegetables together. The heavy responsibility of the birthday chef also fell into a small Girfather body.
The world's things, many times, I can only use my life to explain. When the father had 36 years old, I still don't know if my father has already done a banquet. I have not known (my mother should remember, but I am going to raise this problem now, how much is some disturbed by her), And if you have never been operated, that is, the mother is married for more than 20 years. Father officially gave birth to himself, and it is to put the birthday banquet in noon, according to our home, the dinner is not a feast, the luncheon is a dinner of. Corresponding, the birthday party of the grandmother is in the evening, my uncle and my aunts are dinner at my house at noon, and I have allocated it to my big god. Because there is a guest at home, the father can not go to the grandmother to give the old man, but finally stayed at home, after a complete birthday.
That meal, everyone should have a wish. That time, there should be more than ten tables, the scene of the scene, let the father feel decent, but it also guilty for these guests, there should be no coming on the mouth, but it is really laughing. Eyes in my heart.