怎么样确定一件事情是你想要做的，我有一个最基本的准则 ，就是你会因为这件事情而感到充实。这种充实是你很明显能感受到的，哪怕这件事情本身还没有给你带来什么回报，你也会觉得自己多少是做了一些事情 。
好比看书 ，你不知道你看的这本书会对你有什么影响，但你会在以后的某个时间里想到这本书，发现自己多少是看进去了一点。哪有什么一下子拯救你的东西 ，万事都是积累。考研也是这样，虽然考研的过程非常的枯燥，接近于高原反应 ，但很多时候你会感受到充实 。
你想做的事情太多了 ，你想要考研，又想先工作一阵子;你想出去旅游，又想把家里新买的书看完。这样的事情在我们身边屡见不鲜，看似忙碌的生活却不一定真的充实 ，大多数人都在这件事情和那件事情中徘徊奔走，时间都浪费在了纠结和犹豫上。
买了书翻了翻就再也没看;下的参考资料只是摆摆样子;去图书馆玩会手机发发呆回家假装自己学习了 。最大的误区就是以为收集整理翻一翻就等于学习了，这和投入去一件事完全是两码事。所以不要总抱怨自己花了时间为什么没效果 ，认真想想自己到底花了多少精力在这件事本身上。
当你下定决心做一件事情时，无论那件事情是什么，在做那件事情的时候就一定要全身心的投入做这件事情 。你不能在学习的时候想要旅游 ，旅游的时候因为担心学习又不尽兴。基友曾经说过谁都想要过牛逼的生活，想旅游想买很多想要放空，没人喜欢一直累一直奋斗。但不是说累了就能辞职 ，烦了就能不做，想逃就甩手去旅行。人在能吃苦的时候都要选择去吃苦，或者去充实自己 。
我的做法是给自己定一个非常短期的目标，一个礼拜或者一个月，把这个目标完成了就奖励自己一个大休息，彻底放空的那种 ，工作什么的都不管。用心做好手头的事，这样在放松的时候才能心安理得 。
Work hard ，play hard!
另外不要期待着短期内一件事情会给你带来特别大的回报，很多时候充实感已经足够 。你不能指望着一本书就能改变你的人生，凡是抱着这种想法读书的人大多都读不出来什么。你需要读上几百本或者保持思考 ，才可能对你的生活产生影响。
有的句子看了就看了，没任何感想，没一点用处 。有些题做了就是做了 ，考试时也没出现个类似的。但有些句子在某个时刻突然冒出来，那时没明白的突然间明白了，有些感悟有些想法突然间就冒到了脑海里。但有些题目在考试的时候出现了类似的，直到考完之后才开始庆幸 ，还好某个夜晚没有偷懒跳过那道题目 。
接着就是我个人的一点小办法，我通常会在起床之后把该做的又不想做的事情都点开，逼着自己开始 ，不给自己“我玩一会儿微博就开始 ”的机会。(像我这样的少年，一开微博就会刷半小时，开玩笑 ，当然不能开。
这样做的好处除了上面说的，还有就是到了夜晚我的时间都是我自己，而那个时候通常都是忙碌的时候 。不管是上网放松找朋友聊天 ，还是出去玩都可以自由地安排时间，不必担心自己还有任务没做完。
当然还有很多人是越晚效率越高的，我在写书这方面就是。同样的我也会把所有要做的东西都点开，把手机扔在一旁 ，能不上网的时候就不打开网页 。
另外我是一个特别需要听歌的人，我的歌单里永远有几首我听了会很有动力的歌，或者是那些能帮助我focus的歌。每个人的歌都不同 ，但我想每个人都有那么几首歌能激励自己。我就会反复地听那些歌 。
所以就是：找到做完之后会让自己充实的事情;理清放松和工作之间的关系 ，把之后的旅行当作努力工作的奖励，而不是一种逃避;如果可以，尽量不要上网 ，找几首自己喜欢的歌就能不知不觉度过很久;不要太在意时间，时不时地看时间，给自己定个闹钟 ，在闹钟想之前尽量不要管时间;不要相信自己“玩一会就去学习”的话，能不刷社交网络就不要刷。
不要看到别人做什么好，就去尝试做什么，因为每个人表现给你看的不一定就是全部 。很多时候你跑到别人的轨道上了 ，发现那个不适合你，看起来光鲜的其实也有属于他们自己的苦逼。看到全部，再谨慎地做选择。
另外是一个我在坚持跑步的时候掌握的一个小窍门 ，当然我知道跑步的诸多好处，但开始跑步之后我就不会用那些好处来激励自己 。我不会想这件事情有多么多的好处，而是心里给自己画了一条线。告诉自己之前在别的事情上浪费了太多 ，这次就得看看自己能坚持多久。不用想太多，就抱着“哥倒要看看老子能坚持多久”的心态去做，反而能坚持到底。
当你开始做一件事情之后 ，所有的权衡利弊都是开始之前的事，你会做这件事情你就已经权衡好了 。事实是当一切尘埃落定之前，你不知道自己所做的事情是不是真的有意义。所以纠结难过都不能放在开始之后 ，开始之后就给自己顶一个期限，定一个你认为自己能承受的极限，然后在这段期限里什么都不要想，就憋着一口气想把这件事情坚持下去。
行动是打败焦虑的最好办法 ，当你不知道该做什么的时候，就把手头的每件小事做好;当你不知道怎么开始时，就把离你最近的事情做好 。
To insist on one thing, the most out of the final is that you want to do such a thing.
How to determine a thing is what you want, I have the most basic criterion, that is, you will be fulfilled because of this matter. This kind of enrichment is clearly you can feel, even if this thing itself has not given you any return, you will feel how much you have done something.
As a book, you don't know what you have in this book, but you will think of this book in a certain time in the future, find that you look at it. What is the thing that saves you? Everything is accumulated. This is also the case, although the process of postgraduate is very boring, close to the plateau reaction, but many times you will feel fulfilled.
However, many times there is only this kind of enrichment. I used to I didn't make a decision, I didn't choose, and I found out that I totally wanted. Many times we can't be determined because we choose too much, or there is too many temptations.
The things you want to do are too much, you want to postgraduate, I want to work for a while; you want to go out to travel, and you want to finish the books in your home. Such things are often seen around us, but the seemingly busy life is not necessarily true. Most people are running in this matter and that things, and time is wasteful and hesitated.
I bought a book and turned back and didn't look at it; the next reference material was just swinging; go to the library to play the mobile phone to send home to pretend to learn. The biggest misunderstanding is to think that the collection of finishing is equal to learning, which is completely two yards. So don't always complain that you have spent the time, why don't you have effect, think about how much energy is in this matter.
When you are determined to do something, no matter what thing is what is the matter, you must do this everything when you do this. You can't want to travel during learning, when you travel, you will not worry about learning. By friends have said no one wants to have a lot of money. If you want to travel, you want to buy a lot, you want to get empty, no one likes it all the time. But not to say tired, you can resign, you can not do it, want to escapeGo to travel. People have to choose to have bitterness when they can suffer, or to enrich ourselves.
You of course need to be relaxed, but it is based on your hard work.
My approach is to give yourself a very short goal, a week or for one month, and complete this goal, reward yourself a big rest, completely emptied, doing anything. Do your best to do your hand, so you can get peace when you relax.
In this period, I don't allow yourself to hesitate to tangled, I will throw all all. "Nima, I can't hold this brother in such a short time? This can't!" Just holding such an idea, you can stick to it.Work Hard, Play Hard!
Don't expect a short-term thing to bring you a special reward, many times, it is enough. You can't expect a book to change your life, all people who can't read this idea reading. You need to read hundreds or keep thinking, you may have an impact on your life.
Some sentences have seen it, no feelings, no use. Some questions are done, and there is no similar thing in the exam. But some sentences suddenly took out at some point, then did not understand suddenly, some feelings suddenly came to my mind. However, some topics appeared similar to the exam, until the test, I started to celebrate, I haven't lazy jumping behind a night.
Hold longer things make sense, if you have a very magnificent goal, you will be aware of the efforts to achieve your goals and do your long-term struggle.
Then I personally a little way, I usually open the thing that I don't want to do after getting up, forcing myself, don't give yourself "I will play for a while Weibo "chance. (As you like this, I will brush half an hour. I am joke, I can't open it.
The benefits of this doing this are what I said above, and there is a night. My time is my own.And it is usually a busy time. Whether it is the Internet to relax and find a chat, or go out to play, you can freely arrange time, don't worry, you have not finished it.
Of course, there are still many people, the higher the efficiency, I am writing this book. The same, I will also open all the things you have to do, throw the phone aside, you can open the web when you don't go online.
In addition, I am a person who needs to listen to songs. I will always have a few songs that I will have a lot of songs, or those songs that can help me FOCUS. Everyone's song is different, but I think everyone has such a few songs to motivate themselves. I will listen to those songs repeatedly.
In fact, most of you can't concentrate, not someone else to bother you, but you bother your own opportunities.
So, that is: After finding it, it will make yourself enrichment; the relationship between relaxation and work, the rewards after work, not an escape; if you can, Try not to access the Internet, find a few songs you like, you can don't know how long; don't care too much, see time from time to time, give yourself a alarm clock, try to do it before you want to pay attention to it; If you go to learn, if you can learn, you can brush the social network.
Don't see what others do, try to do what, because everyone is expressing to you, not necessarily all. Many times you run to the track of others, I found that it is not suitable for you, it seems that the light is actually a hard work. See all, make choice before you.
The other is a tip that I have mastered when I insisted on running. Of course, I know how much benefits running, but I will not use those benefits to motivate myself. I won't think how much the benefits are this, but I painted myself a line. Tell yourself that there are too many things before things, this time you have to see how long you can persist. If you don't have to think too much, you will do it with "How long can I take a look at Laozi, but I can insist on the end.
After you start to do something, all the trade-offs are all before the beginning, youYou have wear it. The truth is that when all the dust is settled, you don't know what you do is really meaningful. So the entanglement is unable to put it after the beginning, then give yourself a deadline, set one of you think you can bear, and then don't think about anything in this period, just think about this. Stick to it.
Action is the best way to defeat anxiety. When you don't know what to do, you will do everything in your hand; when you don't know how to start, you will take you closest to you. Do it.
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